-- Truth Be Told Quotes
No doubt being on the receiving end of good things makes
you feel like a winner. But what about when other people get
something they want—a good grade, a new opportunity, praise?
Does their win, by default, make you a loser? Of course not.
Someone else’s success doesn’t have to be your failure. The fact that your sister got inducted into the Cat-hair Weavers Hall of Fame doesn’t have to be about you at all.
At a minimum, you’re denying yourself a lot of opportunities to share in some joy. Think about it… if you’re only happy at your own success, you only get to be joyful when you do something great. But if you share your sister’s, best friends’, colleagues’ joy when they do well, you get joy to infinity. And I mean, she is making you all those cute cat-hair scarves.
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This quote can help teens become more self aware about what influences their emotions. It’s natural to feel a pang of jealousy when someone else has a success. It’s necessary to have some healthy competition to drive people to achieve greater accomplishments. But sometimes, that jealousy or competitiveness can be unhealthy. Someone else’s success does not have to mean someone else’s failure. And more than one person can feel joy for the same accomplishment.
Consider these scenarios:
A younger brother learns multiplication and is proud to tell his older sister about it. The sister snaps, “So what. I did that years ago. Do you have any idea how hard geometry is?”
A teen gets an A on a test that her friend struggled with. The teen who struggled is annoyed and acts coldly to her friend.
What is the motivation behind these reactions? Jealousy and competitiveness. By being self aware of where the reaction is coming from, teens can do a healthier job of processing their emotions and preserving their relationships. Using one’s competitiveness to push to do better next time—that’s great. Taking out your emotions on someone else—that’s not so great.
To go a step further, by taking joy in a friend or sibling’s accomplishment for it’s own sake, we get extra opportunities to be happy and joyful with someone we care about. When you take joy in others’ joy, you get joy to infinity.
And if you want super bonus points, consider that we each have qualities or accomplishments that are worth celebrating. It’s ok for one friend, sibling, etc. to be celebrated for some accomplishments and the other to be celebrated for others. Maybe this time it’s one person’s turn, and next time it’s someone else’s. There’s peace to be found by discovering and embracing the qualities in yourself that you want to celebrate, even though they may be different than someone you admire.
High School Health Class / Social Emotional Development topics:
Age Group: High school, young adult.
Age Group: High school, young adult
Download a journaling page that prompts teens to identify qualities they admire, things they like about themselves, things they'd like to improve.
In this lesson and downloadable worksheet, students keep a journal of things they are thankful for and measure changes to happiness levels.
Download a printable coloring page for a mindfulness activity with this quote.