“Sure. Ok, boss.”
What could these simple words mean? Maybe they mean, “Sure. I’m totally ok staying late Friday night to sort the recyclable cans by color.” Or maybe it was more like, “Sure. Okaaay. I’ll sort the cans. But not without letting you know I think you’re a total scobberlotcher.”
Tone and body language speak volumes. And sometimes, we use them to make our displeasure known. It can feel good to win back a sense of power by delivering the words we “should” say along with an annoyed tone or eye roll. But even this lubberwort of a boss knows her employee just tried to put her down. Most people don’t take kindly to that. And sometimes, it’s downright counterproductive.
What you say matters as much as how you say it. When you treat others with respect, you’re a lot more likely to get the respect you want in return. And even if your boss doesn’t stop acting like a gnashnab, you can feel pride in your heart for setting the right example.
Side note: We don't recommend actually calling your boss a scobberlotcher, lubberwort, or gnashnab, even if they are accurate.
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This quote focuses on relationships and communication skills. "It's not just what you say, it's how you say it" reminds young adults that tone and body language can dramatically alter the meaning of what they are communicating. Short phrases in particular, like "OK," "Sure," "Whatever," "I know," can be very charged with emotions and defiance, and come across as disrespectful. While communicating one’s displeasure through tone and body language may make the person speaking feel better, it’s generally not good for the relationship. Taking this action does have a consequence that typically acts as a barrier to positive relationships and further respectful communication. This quote reminds teens to be aware that their tone and body language messages are coming through loud and clear, and might be having a negative impact on their relationships. Understand ones emotions and communicating them in a more respectful way leads to healthier relationships.
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Age Group: High school, young adult.
Age Group: High school, young adult