-- Truth Be Told Quotes
Stuff happens— icky, painful, embarrassing stuff. Maybe a
presentation goes badly even though you worked hard. Maybe
it goes terribly because you didn’t work hard. Maybe that
presentation is why you’ll live in infamy for the great hamster
But it’s precisely those challenging moments that give us the opportunity to learn something and to grow.
When one of life’s tough lessons has you down, you can wallow in it. Or, you can keep the lesson, let go of the scar, and make tomorrow a new day.
You don’t have to like what happened, but you can find a way to learn from it and to live differently after it.
And by the way, no one else is sitting around, their mind on a repeat loop, reliving the hamster debacle, over and over and over. You probably don’t need to either.
This quote is about sadness, mistakes, life, and growth. The quote can help teens see that sometimes we make mistakes and sometimes things don’t go the way we’d like them to. But the “bad” times are temporary and they are opportunities to learn something and to grow.
Whether you're a teen or an adult, mistakes and challenges are uncomfortable. Learning from what went wrong is a great way to keep from having to go through the same difficult moment twice. ("I'll never do THAT again...") When you focus on learning the lesson, you can choose to act differently in the future.
This quote is also a reminder that it’s ok to forgive yourself. Growing up is full of ups and downs. Mistakes are one of the ways teens learn who and how they want to be as adults. Sometimes we have to see who we don't want to be, in order to know who we do want to be. The recording that plays in one's head, reliving the awfulness of the mistake over and over-- it's not very helpful. When teens "Keep the lesson, but let go of the scar," they give themselves permission to learn and move on.
Forgiving others is helpful too-- it takes a lot of energy to stay angry. And often, thinking about how upset you are with someone feels like reliving the negative event over and over-- what's the good in that? It's easy to get stuck in feeling like a victim of someone else's actions. "Keep your lessons, let go of your scars" is a helpful reminder to take back control of one's own life. You can choose to find a lesson in the experience; you can choose to stop carrying around the wound; you can give yourself freedom to move forward with your new knowledge. Even if you never love what happened, maybe you can get to a place of neutrality with it.
It's ok to feel bad for a little while. Those negative feelings will help you remember- next time- why you want to choose a different path. Internalizing the discomfort, the embarassment, the emotions of the event will help you remember why you want to avoid that same lesson again. Once you've felt the feelings, the time comes to pick yourself up, resolve to make different choices in the future, and let yourself move forward.
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