Quote for teens- 'just because you can doesn't mean you should'

"Just because you can, doesn't mean you should."

-- Anonymous

Life is about relationships—at home, at work, in your community. And relationships require give and take. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean it’s fair or kind or honest or responsible.

You could use your age, size and wickedly clever mind to fleece those naïve eight-year-olds out of their lemonade-stand money. But should you?

You could pile your four best friends and a slobbery Saint Bernard into your grandma’s Mini Cooper for an epic road trip. But should you?

There are plenty of things you might be able to get away with, but at what cost to your relationships or your sense of self? Be the kind of person you’d like to see looking back at you.

Teaching Resources

Quote on personal responsibility and respect

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This quote is about taking personal responsibility and treating others with respect, kindness, and fairness. As teens grow up, they may discover that they have more strength, more intellectual ability, more cunning, more boldness than others. They may be more internet or technology savvy. All of those qualities can be great assets, or they can be used to take advantage of people.

Choices about doing what's right and finding a win-win grow over time. --The big sister who can con her little brother out of his dessert… the teen who can hack the technology controls her parent puts on her devices… the person who can see his elderly neighbor doesn’t quite keep up with what’s going... the businessman who has a decision to make about prioritizing profits or workforce safety-- In any situation, people have a choice about how they want to use their abilities. They can use them for good. They can use them for a win-win in which both parties walk away feeling they have some benefit and some fairness. Or they can use them to take advantage of people. Whether it is small deceptions, outright misleading lies, or diregard for possibly negative impact, taking advantage is hurtful to others, and ultimately hurtful to the person choosing to take advantage. This quote is a reminder that at the end of the day, your conscience will help you know whether you have made choices you can be proud of. Self esteem and self respect grow when relationships are fair and healthy. (By the way, for those who feel good taking advantage of people, try the quote, "You be you, unless you're a jerk.")

High School Health Class / Social Emotional Development topics:

Curriculum Topics

  • Healthy decision making and taking personal responsibility, results/consequences
  • Evaluating and reducing risk
  • Recognizing the connection between personal, family, and community health
  • Self-awareness and control
  • Perspectives of others
  • Carry out social and personal responsibility appropriately

Themes

  • Relationships depend on both parties treating the other with respect and fairness
  • Self esteem and self respect are rooted in making decisions that align with your sense of what is right and good
  • Consider other perspectives as you evaluate risk

Character Traits/Values

  • Honesty, Trustworthiness
  • Respect
  • Responsibility
  • Empathy
  • Conscience
  • Fairness

Self-reflection essay / writing prompts and discussion questions

High school health class and social emotional development lessons

Age Group: High school, young adult.

  1. Have you ever felt like someone took advantage of you? How did that impact your approach to others?
  2. Have you ever done something that was great for you, but later realized it wasn’t that fair or kind to someone else? Should you have handled it differently?
  3. What’s the difference between each of these types of negotiation strategies: Win-Win, Win-Lose, and Win-Don’t Care?

Personal Responsibility and Fairness Skills Activities:

Age Group: High school, young adult

Current Events Activity

Choose a current event in which someone emphasized winning, profits or an achievement over the consequences their actions have on others. Ethically, is it right? Is it necessary? Is there a different way to approach the situation?

Fairness in the Community

Choose a current or historic event in which a consumer, citizen, or community felt it was not being treated fairly. What actions did they take? Were the actions fair and just? What result did they get?

Choices and Consequences Movie Scene Worksheet

In this activity, Students write a movie scene showing choices and how consequences cause benefit or harm.

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